Navigate your new life.
Working through change can be difficult at any time, especially now.
Use this space to find solace, ideas, and inspiration as you chart your new course.
Whole Punch
Exploring first steps toward healing.
three dimensional woman
intact, yet flawed
hair flowing like creativity
until I allowed you
to punch a hole in me
whisking away energy
lights inside flickered out
my music slowed down
until I became 2D
line
analagous to the ones I would stand in
waiting to help you
with the latest project
my time had no meaning
an infinite line
the questioning and wordless dismissals
reduced me to a
dot
not Seurat the dot
or anything remotely artistic
a photon being slowly snuffed out
invisibly screaming
from a tiny dot mouth
less than one dimensional
this woman speck in space
lost
to the vacuum of love
you are not alone
Relationship changes can be difficult at any time, especially during this period of social isolation. You are not alone.
An idea was born
I was afraid of this first post. I had that hesitant, sinking feeling in my stomach as I thought about exactly what I would say - similar to the fear we all have when faced with difficult or daring situations. It was scary to leave my marriage and make major life changes, particularly in the middle of a pandemic.
How can I be helpful? I have always been passionate about connecting women with resources. I believe that in helping women, we help families and the community. Anything we can do to lift up women ultimately helps the world. I believe in connecting women with resources, with mentors, and with tools to survive - and later succeed.
There was a great fear in leaving my marriage, acknowledging that the end of the dream of a fairy tale. I had to recognize that we couldn’t do the holidays, vacations and celebrations together in the same way anymore. I have such gratitude for the family and friends who have supported me and for the courage to make a change after a hard look at the price of staying. Whether you choose to stay or go, or stand your ground I wanted to create a space for shared stories and learnings along the way. We can together share tools, tears, laughs and most of all - you should know that you are not alone.
Shadow of me - considering options and escaping from the world for a moment.
Why “divirus”? I thought of this name at one point during my transition process. It seemed to bring together the notion of divorcing during a pandemic. I also think of the word as a representation of the divide that grows between us. “Modern” was a play on many of our familiar depictions of family life and challenges the notion of what fits the norms of the time.
During the decision and planning process, I sometimes found it hard to think. I felt horribly alone. In this blog I will share some ideas that I found useful and resources that helped me through.
art before lockdown II
Exploring art has long brought me solace.
Barbara Earl Thomas Cut Out at the Seattle Art Museum
Escape to the art museum, one last time
Art brings me solace, especially during this tumultuous time. Mid-November, before the art museum was shuttered again, I managed to escape from the house to walk through the Barbara Earl Thomas exhibit. The quiet rooms filled with backlit cut outs inspired me - and somehow brought a moment of peace.
“The real art is finding peace in the midst of chaos.”
More Barbara Earl Thomas cut outs, made me think of our children.
This piece reminded me of my son and of all the hopes and dreams that have been put on pause during this crazy pandemic.