you are not alone

An idea was born

I was afraid of this first post. I had that hesitant, sinking feeling in my stomach as I thought about exactly what I would say - similar to the fear we all have when faced with difficult or daring situations. It was scary to leave my marriage and make major life changes, particularly in the middle of a pandemic.

How can I be helpful? I have always been passionate about connecting women with resources. I believe that in helping women, we help families and the community. Anything we can do to lift up women ultimately helps the world. I believe in connecting women with resources, with mentors, and with tools to survive - and later succeed.

There was a great fear in leaving my marriage, acknowledging that the end of the dream of a fairy tale. I had to recognize that we couldn’t do the holidays, vacations and celebrations together in the same way anymore. I have such gratitude for the family and friends who have supported me and for the courage to make a change after a hard look at the price of staying. Whether you choose to stay or go, or stand your ground I wanted to create a space for shared stories and learnings along the way. We can together share tools, tears, laughs and most of all - you should know that you are not alone.

Shadow of me - considering options and escaping from the world for a moment.

Why “divirus”? I thought of this name at one point during my transition process. It seemed to bring together the notion of divorcing during a pandemic. I also think of the word as a representation of the divide that grows between us. “Modern” was a play on many of our familiar depictions of family life and challenges the notion of what fits the norms of the time.

During the decision and planning process, I sometimes found it hard to think. I felt horribly alone. In this blog I will share some ideas that I found useful and resources that helped me through.